– Well, Hii then. Remember what we talked about the last weekend? Well if don’t, let’s revise it in brief once :-
HOW TO MAKE POSITIVE CRITICISM WITHOUT HURTING PEOPLE:- (Tricks you can use)
*A welcoming dramatic scene
*Put your next move forward
*Make hints, don’t accuse them.
*Ask questions and let them answer.
*Never point at them, mind your hand gestures.
Also if you haven’t read the PART 1 then please check it out first – https://bloggya545390018.wordpress.com/2020/10/25/how-to-make-positive-criticism-without-hurting-people/
Now, let us understand this better by an example –
*Let’s assume your best friend sounds rude and arrogant sometimes and you know it’s unhealthy for her. You are here to help.*
1.A welcoming dramatic scene (EXAMPLE):
YOU- Hey what’s up buddy! Do you have some time, want to have a word.
FRIEND- Hey hello. Ya sure, what is it?
YOU- See I want you to listen to me very calmly. Alright? Okay, so tell me how long have we been knowing each other?
FRIEND- Yeah it has been 10 years. But why did you ask?
YOU- So you trust me and know that I would never want bad to happen to you, okay? So there is this thing which i wanted to talk about to you. See you are my best friend and you know how much I adore you. We have been such good friends from a long time and I just love you for everything you did for me. You are a great person at heart, there’s no doubt.
FRIEND- Heyy thanks yahh. I feel overwhelmed.
2.PUT YOUR NEXT MOVE FORWARD (EXAMPLE):-
YOU- You remember when Sussane came and invited us for her birthday party and and you just walked off without giving her an answer maybe because you were having a bad day. I know you don’t care what others think about you, but sometimes that seems rude and dear, somewhere they get hurt. I know you do it unintentionally but it gives a bad impression of you. Sometimes this ignorance can lead to losing great opportunities.
3. MAKE HINTS, DON’T ACCUSE THEM (EXAMPLE):-
YOU- We all find it so rude when someone doesn’t answer us or ignores us just like that. It’s purely my opinion that we can just respond to what people say and then move. We don’t have to react, just respond. In this way we would not hurt anyone and also would be playing safe. Look I know you are mature enough and that is why you can make your own judgements, but being your best friend I find it my responsibility to at least make my friend aware of it and dear, then the decision is totally yours.
4. ASK QUESTIONS AND LET THEM ANSWER (EXAMPLE):-
YOU- So what do you think about it?
FRIEND- Ya I think you are right somewhere. You know what, sometimes I just feel like why to answer people..who cares..let them say or do whatever they wish to..and so on. What do I do with this thing you tell me?
YOU- Oh yes you are right. But look dear it sounds a little mean then. Right? FRIEND- Yeah I know, it really does.
YOU- I think you can just pretend as if you care, when you actually don’t. You have always been great at drama classes in school, haven’t you? (chuckling)
FRIEND- Hahaha you are right I can definetly do that. (chuckling along)
5. NEVER POINT AT THEM, MIND YOUR HAND GESTURES (EXAMPLE):-
(FRIEND TURNS QUITE SERIOUS)
FRIEND- Hey I was just thinking if I must overcome this drawback of mine because I don’t think this attitude would take me too far . I just had a self realization that I acted in such an immature way all that time. I would try to change this. What say?
YOU- Hey I feel so proud of you. You are really very sagacious. You got it all man, I know you can and you will do this.
FRIEND- By the way, thanks darling, if we wouldn’t have talked about it today, I would have never realised I was wrong.
YOU- No I just said it all, it would not have been of any use if you wouldn’t have figured it all out so nicely. Anyway, I am happy to hear you feel that way.
*See it’s that easy. If you try it sometime, let me know that you did and how it went in the comment box below.
So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.
Stay tuned, see you next weekend.
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