A VOICE! (If you have a daughter, it’s a must read to help her grow stronger) (TALKS)

 Hey people! I hope you are doing great.

Before anything else, I would like to make an announcement. 👇🏻

**We’ll be starting with a new series from the next week (from 7 February to 14 March) called “Towards Living a Better Life”. This is going to be an exciting as well as useful series, providing you with 6 different ways for living a good and healthy life. I’ll be taking each of the six one-by-one, every week. But here’s the trick. This time, I would use the concept of “more in less” and would be writing to a limit but, content which is up to the mark and says a lot within just a few paragraphs. This will also help random people who visit my blog and get frightened looking at the length of my general blogs; this time these people too can get the most out of it because it would be less yet more.**

Okay so let’s come back to today’s topic. This blog can be life changing and of immense help to the parents who have daughters, and that is why it is a must read for them. However, other people too can read it to enjoy and learn. 

So if you remember, a couple of months ago I wrote a blog WHAT IS “RESPECTING GIRLS AND WOMEN” IN THE TRUE SENSE, which actually also marked as the first blog post of the series “TALKS”. And then one of my dear friend Tanisha requested for a second part because she thinks that this topic should be talked more about and also that she really liked reading the first part. So here I am, Thanks to her for a wonderful suggestion.

 If you haven’t read WHAT IS “RESPECTING GIRLS AND WOMEN” IN THE TRUE SENSE then I really suggest you to read it. CLICK HERE- 

Well, I would like to attach some of my favourite lines and paragraphs that I wrote from the Part 1. Please have a look.

If you noticed a word that I emphasized and always emphasize the most on, is “Having a Voice”. So today I shall elaborate on it and would let you know what basically I mean by it.

Giving your daughter the freedom of moving out alone, the freedom of going wherever she wants to, or the opportunity to have higher studies, is just not enough. In order to let your daughter have real wings and to help her beautifully tackle each and every circumstances or difficulties that she faces in future, you need to do much more. All you have to do is to  provide her with a vision of her own from childhood itself.

A lot of us think that we have given our daughters a voice. Well, even boys are born with a voice. So I am definitely not talking about that voice, but a voice with opinion, thoughts, views and critical thinking.

In this 21st century it’s hard to believe that such families still exist, who say we are making our daughter independent and audacious, but actually aren’t, in it’s true sense (at least what I call it as) I know such a thinking has vanished to an extent, but I cannot say completely, which is somewhat understood because as long as people have the fear of unsafe environment exists, they will never be completely carefree. But that isn’t a good excuse to not let them be pilots of their own planes, surely. Let them be free and fly. 

Girls should be taught that their opinions matter as well, in whatever matter, they do can have a view. Okay now I don’t ask you to tell your younger daughter about the financial crisis that you are in right now. But you can always go to her and play a game. Ask her in a very joyful manner “Hey sweety! What do you think, how can momma and sweety cut down our expenses?” And let’s say your daughter answers you back being hell cute “Umm..Momma I think we can surely switch off the lights and fans when they are not required or switch off the television when no one is watching. What say?” Now in this way, let’s count how are you helping your daughter in so many ways. 1. You ask her to give an independent view 2. You help to widen her imagination 3. You let her give a critical answer of her own 4. You teach her that money doesn’t really grow on trees and you have to work hard to lawfully earn it. 5. You make her happy by asking questions in a playful manner. 6.You are helping her to think rationally. 7. You help her play with her thoughts and be creative in her answers. 8. You are letting her ponder over such a useful and good habit of ‘saving a little’. Sometimes your daughter will give you some logical answers and surprise you, and sometimes she would make you laugh with her silly answer. It might sound different to some people, but believe me. These little things stay in our minds and hearts, and often we carry this all to our adulthood. So if you teach your daughter to have an opinion and not to be afraid of saying it aloud, she will most probably take this to her adulthood as well, and who knows if it becomes an important part of her personality, bold and confident speaker she would be who doesn’t fear to raise a voice. Because after all, a person is an output of inputs like experiences, memories, other people, upbringing, individual thoughts, etc. So start from today itself, start asking your younger daughter about her views on everyday things. Of course don’t start talking about her views on political issues or her views on Indian education system or something like that. It’s too much burden for a little girl. Talk about everyday things and in a playful manner, you can also try talking about the serious topics like budget, working outside and other things. Obviously make sure listening to the serious topics your child isn’t getting sad ,make sure she isn’t told much about the harsh side of the world, for, a kid’s beautiful childhood shall never be destroyed. Children are so much pious, happy and satisfied creatures, they should never be told that a tough adulthood is waiting for you. Let them enjoy their childhood to the fullest, and as they grow up, they will themselves find ways to overcome difficulties. After all, adulthood is not that difficult as we overstate it to be, just with the right ways and a little wisdom.

A change cannot occur suddenly and out of nowhere. You cannot expect your daughter to be brave, audacious and valiant at her 20s if you have always taught her to be silent, timid and shy since her childhood. It all starts from how you up-bring your daughters. Also, always be a good example first, if you want her to be brave too.

So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.

ALSO ALSO ALSO, again a reminder👇🏻

We’ll be starting with a new series from the next week (from 7 February to 14 March) called “Towards Living a Better Life”. This is going to be an exciting as well as useful series, providing you with 6 different ways for living a good and healthy life. I’ll be taking each of the six one-by-one, every week. But here’s the trick. This time, I would use the concept of “more in less” and would be writing to a limit but, content which is up to the mark and says a lot within just a few paragraphs. This will also help random people who visit my blog and get frightened looking at the length of my general blogs; this time these people too can get the most out of it because it would be less yet more. 

Stay tuned. Keep shining!

How to make an Impact? (Part-2) (Life changing)

 Hello people! I really hope you had a fantastic week.

 Now we were talking about this really important topic which is “How to make an impact?” The reason why I call it ‘important’ is that in today’s world it’s really necessary to distinguish yourself from others and be a little “extrraa”.

If you haven’t read the first part, then please click on this link, as it’s a must. –

https://heybloggya.blogspot.com/2021/01/how-to-make-impact-life-changing.html

Again, this blog will enable you to possess a personality, to have an influence on others and to help you make your presence felt in social life.

So let’s continue, with the third trick. (first two discussed in the last blog/first part)

3. The Trick of Similarity :-

So have you ever observed that when we find that the other person we are talking to has the similar interests in something as ours, then we get really happy and a kind of connection starts developing. And we usually express our happiness in overwhelming expressions such as “really? The same man!” or “wow I feel the same about it!” or just “Saammee!” Then we usually start talking more about the topic we both love and when the other person knows exactly what you are talking about or even more than you, we feel really good talking to them. It is a fact and most of us experience it now and then, when we meet new people and find they are just like you, we feel so good and also the feeling is mutual. This happens, I assume, because everyone loves themselves, are proud of their opinions and are confident of their choice. Let’s be more practical. How do you feel when you get to know that the other person has the same taste in music as you have, or when you get to know that the other person also fancies the same film stars as you do. You got me right. Or when we get to know the other person too has been watching the episodes of KUWTK, we start talking about characters, scenes, ironical parts, etc. because then everything becomes so relatable. Okkkuurr! Literally! Rise and shine! No efforts necessary! Or even the incidents like Kylie’s billionaire thing, Kendal’s boyfriend and her successful modeling career, Kourtney and Kim’s fights etc.

So shall we use this fact and so common experience as a trick? Why not.

So what do we do? All we need to do is talk more to people about their interests in things, and once you find a common interest, grab the opportunity to connect. Once you both connect through a small similar interest,  the other person starts feeling more comfortable around you and they start liking you somewhere deep within. Okay now how is this relevant to making an impact. Oh dear! Unknowingly, you have made a major impact on someone. This happens because by sharing a similar interest, you comfort the other person, make them like to talk to you, make them feel like meeting more often to you and make them talk more about you. That’s what we call making an impact right!

But hey! Again be careful. Don’t fake a similar interests, because anyhow you would be caught when later a person imitates-  “How you doin’? (in a creepy yet impressive manner, just like the character) Oh god Joey is so funny!” and you stand clueless thinking “Is Joey one of his friend or something!” That is definitely not how you are going to connect. In order to find out what else you can connect on, try to keep asking questions about their preferences, choices and interests. And somehow you will find something which you too can relate to. But hey if nothing seems to be common in you both, don’t keep asking questions and irritating the person, move on to another person and try the trick on them.

4. The Power of Vibes:-

If we really want to make an impact on others, it’s really important to have those “vibes”. You might be wondering what do I mean by vibes? Our vibes are something we carry to every place, but rarely notice them. How impressive a person looks when he smiles and ask people to comfort themselves in his party, isn’t it? Why so? Because he carries those vibes which everyone wants to feel. It’s so true and obvious, that if we want to have an impact on others then we must possess some basic socializing skills. Cool is not one who be rude and mean to a gossiping aunt everyone hates in the community, but cool is one who be clever and talk nicely to the unwanted aunt as if we do care about her, but actually everything we want from that aunt is, she going in her kitty group and saying “Oh she is a very good girl and has been brought up with all proper ethics.” Ahh I think you got me right?

My mom is really really good at socializing (especially meeting and greeting everyone with a genuine natural smile) with other people, be it any age group. And that is why I think I have got a little of it in my genes. But not everyone is fortunate to get it hereditary, and it might seem difficult to start working on a skill from scratch, but as we all know, nothing is impossible and once we make our mind, no one can stop us.

 Also, do let me know if you want me to write a blog on “The easiest and effective socializing skills”. Comment below or write to me through mail- anushkabadkul7@gmail.com

Everyone wants to be around happy and joyous people, because of their positive vibes. So the next time you want to have an impact on others, remember to carry vibes everyone likes, like being friendly, being positive, being natural, being yourself, being good to everyone you meet. I feel really sorry for the introverts who suck at socializing and that is why might find difficulty in relating to this one trick, but it’s understood, so you should definitely not oppose your true inborn nature. But there is something introverts can do, as you do not like talking much to people, you can just pass a signature smile and follow basic ethics so as to not make the other person feel like an alien and also not lose your chill introvert vibes.

So yeah! Keep making an impact and influencing others.

So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.

See you the next Sunday.