Before we begin with today’s topic (which was meant to be the previous week’s), I want to make a sincere apology to all my dear readers for not posting a blog the last week. It was a sudden illness and I just couldn’t help it. But anyways, I am here and without any further delay let’s get back to what we were talking about.
Okay! So in the last blog, I asked a question to all of you and expected answers. Well I must say, they were not just answers which I received from you people, but were some BEAUTIFUL THOUGHTS written down in the most beautiful way possible. I was really happy to see people participating and writing their valuable opinions to me. ThankYou everyone for your love and support from the very bottom of my heart.
So today we’ll talk about what is self love and then why is it needed.
Yogi Raman from “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” said that only if a person can love himself, can he love others around him.
Now when we think about self love, what is the thing which first comes to our mind? The love for our natural body? Well yes to most of the people self love is the love for our body. But I don’t restrict my definition of self love to body and outer things.
To me, self love is so much more. It’s about believing in yourself, in your abilities, in your achievements and potential, and of course your natural beauty, both inner and outer.
***When we walk in a room full of confident participants or worthy applicants, we feel as if we are less and somewhere have been chosen for this by luck. I won’t say that cowards feel this way, because it’s natural and at some point or the other we all feel this way. Even me, the person writing this blog. But my way of dealing with such a situation is simple and has always worked. I just say this to myself- “They might be better than you, but they can never be You. There is only one Me”. I know it sounds proud, but that’s the kind of love I have for myself. We are all gems, different from each other and glorious in our own ways.
When in such a situation, why do we always forget the heights of hard work it has taken from all of us to reach here. We forget how many times we have rehearsed in front of the mirror or our parents just to get this part in the theatre. We forget how many self-interviews we have gone through for this final interview. We forget how many sleepless nights we have had while studying for this exam. All we start caring for is that They Are Better Than Us.
Why so harsh on yourself? Start recognising your own efforts. Whenever in self doubt, think of the efforts you have put in, and give yourself a good pat on back. If you think you are prepared enough to be that character in the play, you already are in the play. If you think you are compatible job applicant with each and every necessary requirement fulfilled, you already have got the job. If you think you have gone through each and every book and question which can be asked in the exam, you have already excelled. Do not think that I’m providing you with a way of giving yourself a justification if you don’t excel in these things: “oh I worked hard enough, what if I didn’t get it, I am satisfied because I at least tried.” No. Not this. My father always says- if you’re not able to achieve something, maybe you’re not putting your best foot forward. We all put efforts but only few of us excel. Why? Because there is a difference in putting efforts and in putting your best efforts.
*Ending this on a good note, always recognise your best efforts and pat yourself for them. *
*** And then self love is also about accepting and embracing yourself the way you are. Now the people who have seen me or know me, would be like ‘oh she’s fair enough for the society, how would she even understand what it is like”. I know I am fair enough for the society, but we all have some or the other type of flaws right? We’re not those perfect celebrities, obviously, we don’t sleep in *sleep wears*, we simply sleep in pyjamas and an old comfy T-shirt. (Haha yes you are not the only one, high-five) Ok, so there are certain times when I move to a gathering and all in the world these aunts have to say is “oh you should apply this to your face, it would heal your acne like in days, oh you should try this paste” ( and then they strike a conversation amongst them on this- oh yes Anubha! my sister’s sister in law’s daughter used this trick and it worked immensely and then Anubha says- really? When did your sister get marry? And the blah blah goes on forever)
So I understand, there are times when surprisingly you meet people who have it as their hobbies to make fun, taunt, even pull a leg or give useless warnings like- what if these scars stay with you till your 20s. (although those generous aunts were just trying to help me I GUESS).
But the way you deal with them and then the way you look up at yourself, changes everything. What needs to be really kept in mind in our world is that: after all, at the end of the day, and when everything is over- a person’s heart is what is remembered.
*Carry yourself beautifully.* Be confident in your own body. If you think there can be improvements, if you think exercising is good for you, not to bring yourself in shape but to bring shape to your risky future which obesity brings with itself, then you must always do things for your own benefits.
After everything is said and done, I believe there is a better world on our way, which would focus on the inner capabilities and not the outer appearances. Change is all we need. Why not begin with ourselves?
Now we finally talk about WHY is self love so important? As we have already been suggested in the blog, love for yourself is the direct key to confidence. Also, I must mention that, I have seen people who have a faith on their abilities but not on their appearance; and some have a faith on their appearance but not on their abilities. Well, a perfect balance of both of these is required. Yes that wise man said very correctly- only a person who can love himself, can love others around him. To all the women and men, remember this one simple thing, surround yourself with people who admire you for what you are, and never with those who make you think what you could be. (Note to the women facing difficult times, if any-reading, you don’t have to change for him. He is not the right man, or should I say he is not a man. A real man never asks a woman to change herself for him. He adores her for what she is. Never change yourself lady, just to meet their useless expectations)
*So Men and Women, walk with a suitcase full of self love! *
Tonnes of Thanks to these munificent people for writing your answers to me- Roshan, Charvi, Shree Kala ma’am, Kavya, Shruti, Jasmeen, Tanisha, Brother mine.
So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.
See you soon. Stay tuned.
…….good rhyming, isn’t it?
