How to make an Impact? (Part-2) (Life changing)

 Hello people! I really hope you had a fantastic week.

 Now we were talking about this really important topic which is “How to make an impact?” The reason why I call it ‘important’ is that in today’s world it’s really necessary to distinguish yourself from others and be a little “extrraa”.

If you haven’t read the first part, then please click on this link, as it’s a must. –

https://heybloggya.blogspot.com/2021/01/how-to-make-impact-life-changing.html

Again, this blog will enable you to possess a personality, to have an influence on others and to help you make your presence felt in social life.

So let’s continue, with the third trick. (first two discussed in the last blog/first part)

3. The Trick of Similarity :-

So have you ever observed that when we find that the other person we are talking to has the similar interests in something as ours, then we get really happy and a kind of connection starts developing. And we usually express our happiness in overwhelming expressions such as “really? The same man!” or “wow I feel the same about it!” or just “Saammee!” Then we usually start talking more about the topic we both love and when the other person knows exactly what you are talking about or even more than you, we feel really good talking to them. It is a fact and most of us experience it now and then, when we meet new people and find they are just like you, we feel so good and also the feeling is mutual. This happens, I assume, because everyone loves themselves, are proud of their opinions and are confident of their choice. Let’s be more practical. How do you feel when you get to know that the other person has the same taste in music as you have, or when you get to know that the other person also fancies the same film stars as you do. You got me right. Or when we get to know the other person too has been watching the episodes of KUWTK, we start talking about characters, scenes, ironical parts, etc. because then everything becomes so relatable. Okkkuurr! Literally! Rise and shine! No efforts necessary! Or even the incidents like Kylie’s billionaire thing, Kendal’s boyfriend and her successful modeling career, Kourtney and Kim’s fights etc.

So shall we use this fact and so common experience as a trick? Why not.

So what do we do? All we need to do is talk more to people about their interests in things, and once you find a common interest, grab the opportunity to connect. Once you both connect through a small similar interest,  the other person starts feeling more comfortable around you and they start liking you somewhere deep within. Okay now how is this relevant to making an impact. Oh dear! Unknowingly, you have made a major impact on someone. This happens because by sharing a similar interest, you comfort the other person, make them like to talk to you, make them feel like meeting more often to you and make them talk more about you. That’s what we call making an impact right!

But hey! Again be careful. Don’t fake a similar interests, because anyhow you would be caught when later a person imitates-  “How you doin’? (in a creepy yet impressive manner, just like the character) Oh god Joey is so funny!” and you stand clueless thinking “Is Joey one of his friend or something!” That is definitely not how you are going to connect. In order to find out what else you can connect on, try to keep asking questions about their preferences, choices and interests. And somehow you will find something which you too can relate to. But hey if nothing seems to be common in you both, don’t keep asking questions and irritating the person, move on to another person and try the trick on them.

4. The Power of Vibes:-

If we really want to make an impact on others, it’s really important to have those “vibes”. You might be wondering what do I mean by vibes? Our vibes are something we carry to every place, but rarely notice them. How impressive a person looks when he smiles and ask people to comfort themselves in his party, isn’t it? Why so? Because he carries those vibes which everyone wants to feel. It’s so true and obvious, that if we want to have an impact on others then we must possess some basic socializing skills. Cool is not one who be rude and mean to a gossiping aunt everyone hates in the community, but cool is one who be clever and talk nicely to the unwanted aunt as if we do care about her, but actually everything we want from that aunt is, she going in her kitty group and saying “Oh she is a very good girl and has been brought up with all proper ethics.” Ahh I think you got me right?

My mom is really really good at socializing (especially meeting and greeting everyone with a genuine natural smile) with other people, be it any age group. And that is why I think I have got a little of it in my genes. But not everyone is fortunate to get it hereditary, and it might seem difficult to start working on a skill from scratch, but as we all know, nothing is impossible and once we make our mind, no one can stop us.

 Also, do let me know if you want me to write a blog on “The easiest and effective socializing skills”. Comment below or write to me through mail- anushkabadkul7@gmail.com

Everyone wants to be around happy and joyous people, because of their positive vibes. So the next time you want to have an impact on others, remember to carry vibes everyone likes, like being friendly, being positive, being natural, being yourself, being good to everyone you meet. I feel really sorry for the introverts who suck at socializing and that is why might find difficulty in relating to this one trick, but it’s understood, so you should definitely not oppose your true inborn nature. But there is something introverts can do, as you do not like talking much to people, you can just pass a signature smile and follow basic ethics so as to not make the other person feel like an alien and also not lose your chill introvert vibes.

So yeah! Keep making an impact and influencing others.

So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.

See you the next Sunday.