Distraction. Not a new topic, right?
But do we actually know how harmful these distractions are? Do we know how important it is to realize where and how are we getting distracted? Do we know how can we overcome these distractions and remain focused? Don’t worry, I figured out a few things which work for me, which I would share with you, hope it works for you too. Today, I would provide you with some very useful tricks to handle such a distracting situation. I know it seems almost impossible for some people, but actually, it’s very much possible. As, I believe, the easiest and the most worthy things to do, are the things we do for ourselves, by ourselves.
Before starting, I would like to inform my dear readers about this most awaited series that I have finally started, known as, TEENS. Yes, as you can already guess from the name, it would be all about some tricks and tips that I want to share with my fellow teens to handle this most difficult and at the same time the most exciting period- the teenage! As I am a teen too, I can so much understand what we guys feel. Although, I cannot understand you completely as every story is unique, but somewhere we all teens have a great deal in common.
We neither have a kiddish mind, nor a mature one. Imagine what trouble are we in. Sometimes we feel like grown ups and sometimes like 5 year old nagging kid. I believe, some how, every kid adjusts with the childhood and some how every person with the adulthood. But, the teenage is the most tricky one. Some die, some float, some fly.
This is the first post I have for you, teens. Hope you enjoy, tell me in the comment box, how it was.
So hey, let’s start-
First of all, I ask myself, what is “distraction”?
To me, anything which doesn’t let you focus, anything which doesn’t let you be at peace and at ease, anything which takes you off the track, anything which asks you to lose control of yourself, anything which overpowers your mind and heart, is A DISTRACTION.
Ask yourself these “anythings!” mentioned above. Check if you feel that there is something or someone which distracts you from your path. Checklist, analyze, and take a decision if it is a distraction or not. (Believe me, if you have something or someone in your mind which could be a distraction, don’t get confused. Our human mind would never accept that a thing which pleases us can also be unpleasant. If you have something in mind, don’t overthink, take a decision for yourself and accept that it’s not that pleasant and I need to overcome and change.) Now let’s know how we can come out of it.
1. SOCIAL MEDIA- A DISASTER.
– We were so happy and sorted, then this social media happened. I must say, I think, the invention of social media is the most devastating things human race has ever faced. It’s a curse on the face of the earth. I must also mention, if used properly and with utmost care and attention, it can also be counted in the greatest inventions. But do we use it properly and with utmost care and attention? NO. A big NO. Very teeny tiny people are able to do that. And that’s where, we start getting distracted and destroy ourselves. The first step to bring your calm back, is to quit social media. Start doing this for a shorter span and then jump to a longer one, then to a permanent quit. I say this with experience. I count it in the the best decisions I ever took. Instagram seems such a divine place, when actually it’s a hell, especially for the growing children like teens. As I said, we neither are kids, uploading car and barbie game’s winning screenshots and nor are we that mature to realize the harm we are doing to ourselves. The reality of social media sites like (specifically) Instagram and Facebook, is that people are not uploading pictures to connect, to love and care, to bond, to make friends. Rather, they are uploading pictures to show off, to deceive, to make people feel jealous, to build a wall between you and your loved
ones, to make people feel insecure, etc. Look how negative impact we all are having through these sites.
We look at people loving each other, people hating each other, and beleive me or not, we showcase our surroundings. Because of Instagram, either we have started feeling too less about ourselves or too much about ourselves. We have somewhere lost the perfect balance of being proud on what we have and know, and being eager to learn what we don’t know.
We watch negative things, pass negative things, fill ourselves with negativity, surround ourselves with negativity, and then expect to be happy. What justice is this? To those who post a picture with caption “Good vibes only”, with utmost respect I ask, dear do you really think you are surrounding yourself with good vibes only. Or are you getting upset seeing that your crush didn’t like your post until now and are doubting yourself for not being too handsome or beautiful for a boy/girl like him/her. However I know I’m going to sound like a saint or something, but, I really think, rather, we should have a moment with ourselves and self analyze and self realize the good deeds, the bad ones, the accomplishments, the mistakes, the learning, the plans further. That would be productive first, and then it fills the person with positivity(or should I use the Instagram language- it fills you with GOOD VIBES ONLY.)
2. TAKE SOME TIME OFF
-Taking some time off from the daily drama is something I think keeps us focused. The best way I do this is, by leaving my phone for a few days or weeks. We spend (waste) so much of our time on YouTube, Instagram, WhatsApp, and by this all we do is get distracted. When we could utilize our time doing productive stuff, we waste it by surfing on sites or playing games. (I just wonder sometimes, people never had time to play a kid’s game Ludo, or to play with their parents or even friends, but as soon as it became a nonsense trend, everyone loves it. Bullshit. When would we start putting our own brain and stop following others blindly? Well, okay, sorry for this out of the context talk) So basically, all I want to say is that we must take some time for ourselves (if you can leave your phone for a week, better) and talk to ourselves, analyze things, make better decisions, and live life in true sense.
3. REMEMBER YOUR GOAL-
Everytime I feel confused or distracted, all I do is remember why am I here. These confusions and distractions are just a reminder that you need to remain focused, you need to have control on yourselves, you need to build yourself up and be unbreakable. Just recall, what am I here for? What is my goal? What do I want from my life? Believe me, if we do this with full concentration, this exercise can change everything. Purpose and Meaning, the two most powerful things in the universe. Know your purpose, it can be anything, from a little kiddish desire of being a millionaire or a mature desire to pay back your parents. It does not matter, how big or small, how kiddish or mature your purpose is, as long as it’s POWERFUL and you have DETERMINATION, it’s a desire, it’s your purpose, and it needs to be respected and fulfilled by hardwork. Use your self-motivation to remain focused and forget about all the distractions which would pay you back nothing.
4. THE MOST COMMON TEEN DISTRACTION- LOVE. AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT?
-Although, I understand this is the time when we hardly have control on whom to like, whom to get attracted to, whom to fall in love with. But, it’s crucial that we understand the reality. I am not an anti-lover, I just believe in practical love. And I think that’s what we all should do. Love is not bad, what stupidity some people do in love is bad. You might already know what I mean by right love and wrong love if you have read my previous blog on heart compartments. Sometimes we might feel like he/she is the one, or it’s a true love, or it’s a perfect match, or I won’t get a better one. It’s too common. But the truth is- your life is testing you. Will you react like a normal teen who becomes over excited by seeking someone’s attention or would you be calm and behave mature enough for a teen to understand it’s a test.
that needs to be passed anyhow and not get distracted. This is the time when we are fighting with our own hormones. I know it’s not easy to stay focused everytime, after all we all are growing, are learning and somewhere or sometime we look at a person and get attracted and start liking them. Actually, if you ask me, it’s very healthy. It’s natural and we cannot do much about it. I know it sounds a little weird, but sometimes such little attractions are healthy to maintain a balance. We cannot totally oppose our hormonal changes. It’s healthy to look at someone and have those goosebumps and feel good about someone. It’s okay. But stop, stop there. Don’t let your feelings overpower you, don’t let your healthy attraction become a harmful distraction. As soon as you notice that you are not able to focus, are not able to get them out of your head, and are going crazy for them, stop there. If you don’t want yourself to get destroyed at such a crucial period when you can make a better future, you need to understand the difference between healthy attraction and harmful distraction. Healthy attractions are very light and subtle, they don’t waste your time, they keep your hormones stable, they don’t overpower you and your feelings, they don’t let you get distracted. But almost every teen often starts turning their healthy attraction into harmful distractions. Which is why I say, proper control and balance is the key. When you know where to stop, where to control, is where you truly deserve an appreciation. Everyone can say a ‘Yes’ when their crush proposes them and change their healthy attraction to a harmful distraction. But the real clever teen is one whose self control is so strong that he rejects his crush’s proposal, as he knows this is the point to stop, to not change my healthy attraction into a harmful distraction.
5. REMEMBER YOUR MOST PAINFUL INCIDENTS OR YOUR DARKEST SECRETS.
– Sounds absurd? crazy? nonsense? I understand. But it works. Let me tell you how. When we get distracted and we knowingly want to do something harmful, the best way to avoid it and stop, is FEAR. We all are afraid of some or the other things, okay, I am not talking about lizards or crocodiles. We are the most afraid of facing those painful incidents again which horrifies us like anything or either we are afraid of our darkest secrets being revealed in front of the world. These two fears, I think, are the most personal, and that is why frighten people the most and can even get them do anything. In the everyday world, we call it “Blackmailing”. Now here’s a trick. Might sound a little different, but worth to try, BLACKMAIL YOURSELF! Yes. Remember, an incident you cannot forget, an incident which broke you, a family issue that went too far, an accident which shook you. Now blackmail yourself. For a person like me, who is tough, torturing yourself a little can actually push you to work harder. But if you are an emotional one, don’t do that, it would then only make you dwell in the past and make you feel sad and demotivated, which we don’t want at all.
6. MAKE A TO DO LIST REGULARLY.
– When you have something to do and when you know you cannot afford to stop, then you are more motivated and less distracted. Making a “To Do List” is something we hear a lot about, but never practice. Right? I request you to not ignore this post and actually try to practice and see the results yourself. When you have a schedule and you already plan your affairs, it’s often difficult to be lazy and get distracted by cell phones or other stuff. Imagine, you left your phone for a week and now have got a whole lot of time with you. And then you decide to make a checklist i.e. a TO DO LIST and complete all your tasks and tick them up as soon as you finish with them. Wow! What a satisfaction.
At last, I would like to clarify something. Is it too late to start? No, it’s never too late. Start right now and start making better decisions for yourself. You know what friend, I am a positive person. And I can find positivity in almost everything. Now what if I say distractions are good for you
if you are able to recognize them. These distractions are necessary to push you and remind you your purpose and meaning. It’s never too late to take a safe and right U-turn. It’s never too late to quit social media, it’s never too late to control on hours we use cell phone, it’s never too late to recall your goal, it’s never too late to dump a distraction, it’s never too late to get motivated from dark demotivations, it’s never too late to prepare a To Do List for yourself. It’s just never too late. Start, right now.
And hey I must say, these all were my observations on things, it is possible that for some type of beings, a couple of them may not work. It totally depends on your nature and kind.
Well now, what’s your take on this?
DISTRACTION = DESTRUCTION
Do you agree?
Please tell me what’s your views on it in the comments section below or you can also write to me through mail. – anushkabadkul7@gmail.com
So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.
Catch you later! Bye.
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