Hey guys, I really hope you all are doing great. I am so glad that many of you liked my recent series “Towards living a better life”. After looking at your generous response, I am even more motivated to keep writing for you all. I thank each and every follower and reader of BloggyA for their support and love.
Coming to today’s topic:- The Easiest Social Skills. This one might be long as these points required a clear explanation. Hope you don’t mind.
- 1. The first easy trick we are going to talk about is all about the art of listening. Now don’t you feel annoyed when you are speaking and someone interrupts or just doesn’t listen to you? Exactly. That’s what others feel too when you do that. The most important thing today is to be a really good listener. When you have patience and listen to the other person, the person is convinced that you are trustworthy, easy going and a good company. Listening is truly an art. When you gain self control and the right amount of patience , only then a person can be a good listener. It’s rightly said “It’s easier to speak, but harder to listen.” Start listening to people more, let them open up (not too much though) and share their experiences, joy, nostalgic stories, their tragedies, sob stories, etc. I said ‘not too much though’ because sometimes when you listen to people’s personal stories, they tend to get attached from you and they then turn themselves into those unwanted guests, no one likes such clingy people, no matter how much they have excelled in the art of listening. Remember here we are talking about those one-time people, society and even regular people, but not about our family and friends. There is no limit of listening to your parents or sibling’s problems and helping them to gain strength, similarly there exists no limit of listening to your friends in trouble and helping them in the best ways possible. My social tricks are mainly meant for external groups of people, with exceptions in few of them.
- 2. Now this one is a really useful trick that I have also talked about earlier in one of my blogs. Showing the same interests in something excites the other person and we tend to become friends easily and within no time. This is so obvious. When our fathers get to know that our neighbour uncle is also interested in real estate, why do they suddenly start morning walks together? Ever wondered? (Hahah) Yes because that is what we all do. We are more interested in spending time with those who have similar interests, similar thoughts maybe or even similar habits. I call this ‘The trick of Similarity’. I always use this for a good first impression or just to start a talk. A couple of days before I happened to sit beside an aunt who was busy watching an Indian daily soap, “Ye Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai”. I knew the basic information about this soap as firstly it is really popular in India and secondly, I used to watch it with my Grandma when I was a kid of 10 years. So I started our conversation with a question- “Akshara toh marr gayi thi na?” which translates itself as- “Akshara ought to have died, I suppose?” And guess what! she was filled with excitement which was clear on her face. Then she told me the whole story about how Akshara came back in another role or something, and I listened and listened, however at the same time I was using my two ears gifted by dear god, one to listen and one to throw the muck out. In such situations, I do listen very patiently and act as if I am the one who cares the most, when actually I do not keep the waste in my head for a single second. So yes! Always try to use this simplest trick and be the apple of their eyes.
- 3. Another thing to remember when you are trying to be more sociable is that you should not be rigid. Rigid people often stick to just one thing and have an opinion that everything else is a muck. Such people are not really accepted by people because these are the type of persons who half of the time are found proving themselves right and others wrong. We should try to be flexible and evenly tempered. One should know how to mould themselves according to the type of surrounding they are in at that time. An easy going person is always accepted in any group, no matter how different they are from each other. One shall always try to have the ability of being flexible. I want to make a point here, moulding ourselves according to the surrounding does not mean changing ourselves for others. But it simply stresses on having the ability of presenting yourself as the most compatible person with maintaining your inner calm.
- 4. The easiest trick I know to gain a lot of admirations by the people is to radiate positivity. People today feel so lonely, depressed and sad in their hectic life. All these people want is a good company with a couple of good vibes. Okay now here I make a point, I am not stressing on good mental health wholly, because I know sometimes when we are struggling as that’s what life is all about; happiness and struggles combined together to make a meaningful path, it’s difficult to remain positive. But here we are talking about tricks, tricks to gain people’s trust and have a better social life. And remember that tricks are also about some theatre. Start greeting people with a wonderful, genuine and a decent smile; like one they never received before. A really warm smile of a genuine person makes everyone’s day. Why not you be that one? Try it on yourself, whenever we receive an authentic smile by a person, we generally don’t forget that person for hours or even for months. Because we know what a good source of positivity that person proves to be for us, and we tend to get impressed by them. Not only smiling, but you can also try other ways like, not talking anything negative. Now here what I mean is- we should always avoid negative talks, they may be in the form of backbiting, abusing or offending someone, unnecessary criticism, pinning over our problems, playing blame games, etcetera etcetera.
So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.
Have a nice day and see you next week. Goodbye.
