“Confidence is the key”, yes it really is. But why is it so? And hey where to be confident? How to be confident? Well, I would answer to all these questions in today’s blog.
Hello people, a happy Sunday to everyone.
Why is it so?
Why some people come and be in limelight by impressing everyone in the room and go, while some come and never get noticed? It’s their confidence that makes the difference. Many a times we want ourselves to be noticed, to be heard, to be preferred, maybe because we want something from them to be done or it’s just that we want to impress them by our audacious character, like in interviews or on dates. To understand the importance of being a confident person at social places or even in some personal groups, let’s take an example of ourselves. I would not tell you confidence is that, confidence does this, does that. Rather, I would like to show you.
What do we think or do Hhaan? When, you look at a handsome hunk or a beautiful lady dressed absolutely up to the mark, entering the hall with little kindness and a pinch of pride on his/her face. And as he/she walks, mouths murmur, one being your own. Then that ‘one’ walks right straight into the hall to meet the host of the party, who then shakes hand with the host and passes a gorgeous smile to him and to everyone they see next. . Who then pass gestures like a queen/a king, and attracts every freaking person in the hall. Who then also looks at you sitting jaw dropped, but are ignored, as you are not so important and carry it on your face “I just came in here to enjoy food”, actually. Who then by their body language, signs, ways of socializing and by their strong character (sometimes faked skilfully), prove who is the boss in here and make people their presence felt. You can clearly notice if she/he just left the place. And as he/she leaves, mouths murmur behind, one being your own.
Exactly. I hope you got the vibes of that personality. We all experience this somewhere somehow. Isn’t it? So don’t you want to be that one person? I must clear it, I do not talk about people who are confident being mean and rude to everyone and those who find it very cool to walk with full pride on being rich and are proud of money and respect they didn’t even earn themselves, but their fathers did. Confidence is nothing but faith you have on your own self and your abilities. It has got nothing to do with prejudice. Confidence is the only thing which can help you make the other person think “Oh god! I cannot afford to not look at/talk to/listen to/appoint/marry/whatever this person. I do not say that if you are confident, it’s enough and you don’t want any degrees or skills, rather, if you are skilful and then confident, it’s the cherry on the top.
It’s pretty much understood that when we appear to be a confident person, the other human already judges what kind of personality and character we can have. What other people always think of a confident person is that she/he must be bold, better decision maker, influencer, graceful, compatible, leader and more such desirable qualities come to their mind. Isn’t it an asset then? If you can make an impact on someone or a group of “someones” by making them believe that you are the most compatible person present here, as confidence is your strength, then why not do it? Let’s do this.
Where to look confident?
Though this is a silly question, yet it’s quite important. Well, if you ask me? I would be in character all the time, so that I don’t mess with ‘where to be’ and ‘where not to be’. I mean, I would be a confident person all the time. I would love to maintain an image, an image of a confident lady. So I would recommend you to, as I said, ‘be in character’, that is, be confident, in everything you do, every place you go, in front of each person you meet. But what if it’s hard for you to do it all the time, and you only wish to do that trick occasionally to get what you want. Then yes, I can name a few occasions where this trick phenomenally works. In interviews and recruitment, the one thing they are surely looking for is decision maker which is one of the many great qualities of a confident person. It also does work in social gatherings like parties or events. I also observed it definitely works when you participate in a competition, and when you have that ‘winning vibe’, as you are confident enough of your practice and hard work, no one can afford to not give you the 1st position, but wait, remember I said “confident vibe” not “over confident vibe”. Over confident i.e. conceited people never win, as they are just too satisfied with what they are now, as a result they never learn, as a result they never grow, as a result they never win. Also, some people might be thinking “to look confident in front of elder people or not to?” Look, let me make myself clear on this. This question bumped in my and your head because we are Indians (assuming an Indian is reading this blog, which is the most obvious thing happening, as I can see I haven’t got much of foreign readers yet…haha) Yaa so I was saying, this question bumped in my and your head because we are Indians and our parents have always taught us to never talk or behave disrespectfully with elders. Right? And that is why we fear that if we sound and look very confident in front of much wiser elders, we would actually be insulting them. But hey, worry not, there’s nothing like that. I must mention, confidence is not something which makes you look or sound very conceited or very rude and mean. If it does, then you are surely mistaken ‘over confidence’ for ‘confidence’. Being confident in front of elders is no harm and is not at all disrespectful. Remember your basic ethics of bowing down, touching their feet or doing a ‘Namaste’. What matters is whether you have a good heart and whether your intentions are good or not, that’s true respect.
I wish I could continue writing further on my favourite sub topic (and I think yours too) “How to look confident” but because I think I have already written to a certain limit, I must cover it in the next blog i.e. the next Sunday. The next blog would be all about “The ways”, telling you how can you actually look more like a confident person. Excited for the ways?
So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.
Please remain tuned for the next blog post. I am sure you would enjoy the ways, after all who would not like to be noticed. Right?
Until then, Babbye.
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