Is it ok to be sensitive? (TALKS)

 Hello everyone! Nice to see you here again. I really hope you all had a fantastic week. Let’s dive into today’s blog.

Well, my mother has been the most beautiful soul I have known from years. And I am sure, for you too your mothers are. I remember when I was growing up, in my early teen I used to tell my mom that she was not strong enough, that she should speak up for herself, that she needs more courage. But now, my perspective has completely changed. Now, I look back and say this to the 12 year old me- “You need to shut up!”

So my mother is a kind and tolerant person. If I try to explain her in the words I used to use for her before (not anymore), then I shall say- she is sensitive, emotional, empathetic and vulnerable sometimes. Even when she comes to know about the death or about an accident of a person whom she doesn’t even know, she feels really sorry and sorry for the family suffering the loss too. So you can imagine what she is like when she gets to know about someone dear or someone known. Yes she starts crying bad.

But here is the thing. SHE IS THE STRONGEST.

HOW?

As people, we have always associated empathy and vulnerability with weakness. But today I really want to persuade you all to change the common perspective to a right one. 

I have always been loud, confident and bold. But does that mean I am strong? Well, I used to think that I am strong and can handle everything ( I don’t completely disagree with that either) ; what I did not know was what was coming. There was this one time I remember when we were facing difficulties and I broke down. I was 15 and I got really emotional and was like “This sucks, how am I going to deal with this!” On the contrary, was my Mother– strong, full of hope, not shedding a single tear and like always- smiling and challenging the challenges. She has always been like- “Ahh you wanna tear me apart? Try it. I am right here. You’ll only find me and my family smiling and enjoying anyways, because this time shall too pass.” (ofcourse she is not completely fearless; no one is, right?) But that’s the kind of attitude she carries. 

Yes that’s my mother. I love you my darling. 

  Now tell me honestly, what was the image of my mother you crafted in the beginning of the blog and what do you think of her now?

p.s.- “Fellas, don’t judge too fast.” 

Yes, that’s my mother. And not only her, but there are so many people who are thought to be weak and vulnerable and that’s why sometimes, even these people start believing that we are weak and hopeless. We measure a person’s strength, confidence and ability to withstand challenges, on such lower grounds. Being strong is never about not crying while watching an emotional movie, it’s about not losing your mind when things go wrong in life. Being confident does not only mean being able to present yourself boldly in-front of the public, but it’s so much more and means always believing in our strengths and potential. 

My mother is a benevolent lady. She has always been kind and good to everyone. And there are many people like my Mom: they are kind, good, empathetic and just so much adorable souls. I really think that we all need to broader our outlook and how we see these people and understand that they are just humans filled with more sympathetic and I should say, HUMANLY emotions as compared to others. They are not weak, they are just so tolerant. 

I carry a guilt in my heart for being ridiculously wrong at that time and saying all of that to my mother. Now I see, she is the reason behind EVERYTHING GOOD. But at the same time, I am not repentant, I believe in getting up and correcting things more than sobbing on the same shit for days. So whenever I feel the guilt I just go to my Mom and hug her and tell her that I was so wrong and stupid and maybe still I am stupid, just little bit less from yesterday. I tell her how much proud I am of her and of being her daughter. And so I apologize sincerely and she, being a mom, always kisses back and forgives. 

The motive of writing this all is to spread a message among all of you- to not to underestimate a soft person. It might be you or someone you know. Believe and accept that being sensitive is ok. Also, I don’t know when our society and we, will stop drawing a direct connection between muscularity and strength, and believing that men cannot be vulnerable. Holy crap! They are humans and it’s there birth right to be able to be emotional. But we have burdened their shoulders by saying- “Oh you are a man! How can you cry?” Well, we will take this some other day. 

But here is one more point I shall make, because without mentioning this, I guess the article has a tendency to be misinterpreted. Although I respect and adore and learn from my mother’s kindness and goodness- the fact that every person and every person’s habits or nature has some flaws, should not be neglected. If people become too good and too available for everyone, it becomes a drawback for them more than being an asset to their personality. I am sure my mother is a selfless being, but the lack of required amount of selfishness is realized by her too. So Everyone! , there’s no problem in being too good or sensitive, but don’t forget to apply practicality to it too. Learn to say No, have your priorities set. Don’t let incidents from other’s life effect you so much. Be tolerant, but ofcourse that has got a limit too. Being vulnerable is completely okay, but too much of anything is just too much. 

At last- It’s okay to be emotional, sweethearts.

Quickly a shout out to my Mom– Hey lovely! You give me strength, hope and endless support and love. You are a precious priceless gift to the earth. I am what I am because of YOU (ok..ok..Dad and Brothermine too). THANK-YOU for everything. 

So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content. 

Stay blessed.

See you next week.