Hey beautiful people! How you doin’?
So in the last blog, that is Part 2, this is what we learnt-
The next time someone is talking to you, be attentive and be present with all of your senses. The worst thing you can do in a conversation is being ignorant. If you always disrespect people, then they build up a natural feeling of resistance for you. Don’t let them do it. You can surely avoid and ignore shitty people, you don’t have to pay attention and waste time thinking about people who don’t matter. Just never let your important group of people be disappointed by your silly ignorance and arrogance. If you are genuinely not interested to listen, chose the two subtle ways I suggested to get out of the situation without offending them.
Let’s continue with Part 3 today.
Law 3: Responses!
From the title itself, I think it’s quite clear what I am going to talk about today. Yes, we are going to discuss Responses.
Some people share a common problem and they say- “You know what, I think I am really attentive and I do genuinely listen to other people. But I don’t know what makes these people think that I am not listening to them and they think I am being arrogant!”
I know, sometimes we just really forget to show that we are actually listening to them maybe because we are listening to them just so attentively that we get lost in their words and our imagination and grow unaware of the present situation. But I guess we all would agree upon this, that this could be really harmful. The other person might wonder if you aren’t there when actually you are so much there.
How to deal with this then?
Okay so I am not here to give some words of wisdom, I myself am a learner and am trying learning new things everyday. But I can surely share the little little things I have learned so far.
When you are listening to someone, it’s important to see if they know that you are listening to them. This might sound like a very basic thing, but the reason why I decide to give this point a part in the series is because I feel the need of more recognition be given to this little but crucial thing.
Here are some really really simple things you can do to tell people that you’re listening to them because guess what, you are!
1.**Check if you’re not losing an eye contact. (please don’t misread ‘eye contact’ as ‘stare’ and HaHa you can definitely blink, keep it natural)
2.**Try adding a few lines when they take pauses in between. (to convey that you do take some interest in what they’re talking about)
3.**Don’t stop with the natural nodding, but ofcourse as long as you agree.
4.**Try adding a worthy piece of information you recently got to know about, related to the topic they are talking of. (this will show your sincerity towards the conversation)
5.**It’s completely fine to have some honest disagreement, as long as it’s respectful, not rude. (Beware! Being honest with a person who can’t take it, is very destructive.)
^Now let’s take up the million dollar question again- ^
“What if we are genuinely NOT interested in this topic but don’t want to hurt them by telling this on their face?”
Bare with me ahead, if you think I went too honest.
What matters here is that are you really interested in listening to this fellow or are you genuinely not giving a duck. If you chose option A, good for you! Keep listening and keep telling them that you are listening. But if you are genuinely not giving a damn, then use those subtle ways again. Stop doing all those things I mentioned above, slowly & slowly. Slowly, stop having the good eye contact. Slowly, stop adding lines to fill their pauses. Slowly, stop nodding, don’t add any piece of information you have. Otherwise, if you continue doing all those things, it will only show that you are still interested. And know that, nothing encourages and excites people to talk more, than a genuine interest shown.
Keep an eye on how they behave after you used your subtle way. If they grow irritated and they seem to not understand your way of telling them to stop, I am sorry but you would have to listen to them until they stop. (Yes you are right! these people are pathetic, but you gotta tolerate them sometimes) But yes it is possible, that sometimes some people are sagacious enough to understand your hints.
So in essence,
The next time someone is talking to you, let them know that you are listening and are present. It’s not enough to just listen, it’s equally important to respond too. Responses are the key to good conversations and a happy customer. Don’t sit stand or talk stiff like a robot, remember you are a human. Expressions hold a great importance. We also talked about how to behave when you are not interested in listening anymore- use the subtle ways. Stop doing all that you were doing earlier, Slowly & Slowly.
Hint for 4th law: Let them finish!
So that was it. Hope I was able to be of some help and hope you liked the content.
Bye Bye Sunshines.
See you soon.
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